Guard your hearts Part 2 (For the Men)

Because this blog format post the latest thing written at the top, scroll down to read Part 1 of this mini-series. And yes if you are a guy you should still read the post for the women because at the very lest you have a little insight into how we think sometimes…moving on.

So Fred, the girl from a/p isn’t all that you expected and your interest has waned, but Sarah your Tuesday/Thursday lunch buddy might be an option. You think she is fairly cute, she listens to you even when you get sick of hearing yourself, she is kind to small animals or whatever cute or strange, or wonderful thing you like about her. But you are just friends and haven’t actually looked at her in that way, but your heart is softening and it scares you…how I know…because I must have heard it from your species a thousand times how scary it is to take a chance and ruin a great friendship. So what’s a boy to do? Well first, if you really have an interest but are scared to face it, then (here I go being a religious-nut for someone of you), pray about it. Ask God if this is something you should pursue and pray for the courage to do so. Don’t worry about how things will be different because if she is carrying her R.S.K. she will know how to deal it.

So Fred, you don’t like the girl from a/p and when you think of Sarah, you see her as a little-brother…I mean sister, but you have a sneaky suspicion that Sarah might be fond of you…so what’s a boy to do? First examine your behavior to see if you are leading her on. Then do nothing…that’s right I am letting you off the hook! It is NOT your place to take care of her heart, you didn’t sign-up for that job nor should you take responsibility…this is only if you haven’t been leading her on however. Now if you have been leading her on then you need to let her know how you really feel about her without embarrassing her or being cocky enough to tell her that you know she has feelings but you don’t. Women aren’t stupid and she will get the hint. Once she does she might pull away a bit…which has nothing to do with you, but everything to do with her needing time to heal and build a guard around her heart so that when she re-enters the friendship she will be able to handle it, so don’t get bent-out of shape because she excuses herself for a while…you should be happy and admire that she is mature enough to understand that she has to take care of herself. Because as temping as it seems, you men really don’t want a woman who lacks self-respect and trip all over herself to be in your presence whenever you say jump.

Navigating through the male/female relationship land-mine isn’t easy.

This all leads us to the conclusion of this series about crossing-over from friends to partners…which is a heck of a lot harder than dating a stranger off the street!

To be continued...